This week my Word of the Week is: Family! #WotW

This week my Word of the Week is: 

This week has been a good one and I didn’t even have to think twice about a word for the week because everything seems to have revolved around having my people around me. It always is when my family is home. Stu has had some time off work, Ellie has had time off college and Becky has been popping in and out like she does. I never quite know if she’s staying, visiting or just passing through for food but I’ll take it.

We have had a good balance of spending time at home and being out and about. We haven't done anything massive but I have enjoyed every moment.

The week started with Easter and even though we don't really celebrate like we used to with a big dinner and Easter egg hunts, it was still nice. For us, it is mostly about chocolate. I still have the tiniest bit of my big Galaxy egg left, which probably won't see out today as I always like a bit of chocolate on a Saturday evening in front of the TV.

Monday was a home day as it was Bank Holiday and the buses are rubbish here, so we stayed in, slept until late, caught up on some jobs around the house and that was about it. Becky's "friend" was staying here as it made it easier for her to get to work and I liked having a house full. I always say how much I love the Gousto Recipe boxes that I get delivered. I ordered it for 4 people but it fed 5. We had the Chip Shop Basa & Chip Burger With Curry Sauce and the girls didn't want the buns, so there was plenty to go around. I just made extra chips! Everyone was fed and everyone was happy!

On Tuesday, I worked myself up into a tizzy over a phone call I had to take. I'm kicking myself now, it was nothing to stress about. I do it every time. I was having a word with myself before the phone call, saying, "It's nothing to worry about but then my irrational brain was saying, "But what if it is"? It is no fun being a stress head. That's what my family call me and I have to say they are right.

Wednesday was such a gorgeous day and felt like summer. It was just the right amount of heat to go outside and not sweat! I am glad I found my sunglasses as it was shining bright. Ellie and I went to meet Stu from work and we ended up catching a bus half an hour earlier than we had planned because the previous one was late. We went to sit in the centre of Hull and just people watched which is one of our favourite things to do while we waited for Stu to come out of work. We then went to the all-you-can-eat place. We stuffed ourselves and got our money's worth.

On Thursday we stayed at home. I had a day of catching up on some blogging. I had a few posts that needed finishing and general bits to sort. Stu spent most of his day in the garage. From what I could gather he was fixing the doors and having a big tidy-up. I say from what I could gather because I was not going in there to find out. The garage is not my territory. There are spiders and probably other things I don’t even want to think about. Ellie went out to see what he was up to and got roped into helping. lol

Friday ended up being quite busy. We went to see my dad and it had been a while since Stu had been over, so there was a lot of catching up to do. My dad was in his element, showing off everything he'd been up to. He has a vintage car that he’s very proud of and wanted to update Stu on what he had done. He also showed us other bits he’d been working on and then, of course, he fed us. My dad loves feeding people. It doesn’t matter what it is but it always tastes better when he makes it. After we left my dad’s, Stu had a few errands to run and then somehow we ended up deciding to go out for another meal. Two meals out in one week. Eesh! It’s not something we do all the time but when Stu has time off work, we like to make the most of it.

Stu and I are planning to spend some time in the garden today. He’s going to dig me a new vegetable patch which I am very excited about because my plants have been doing really well lately. Other than that, it’ll be our usual Saturday routine. The Gousto box will arrive, I’ll have a soak in the bath and then we’ll settle down in front of the TV for the evening.

How has your week been? I hope you have had a good one! I am of course linking up with Anne who blogs at Raisie Bay to join in with her Word of the Week linky!

What I have loved this week! Week 15. #FridayFavourites

Happy Friday! I hope you’ve had a good week. Mine has been an OK one. Not bad, just one of those weeks when nothing massive has happened but at the same time, it’s been nice for that exact reason. We do have plans for today and tomorrow, family time and a little bit of fun is going to happen. As always, I’m linking up with Erika and Andrea to share the things that I have loved over the past week.

An appointment!

I had an appointment earlier in the week, just a phone one and I spent days beforehand overthinking it. I built it up in my head that it was going to be horrible. I hate speaking on the phone to people I like, so speaking to a stranger was going to be no fun at all but it wasn't that bad! The man I spoke to was lovely, a bit of a joker and easy to talk to. He made the whole ordeal feel relaxed instead of formal. Phew! I was glad when it was over but annoyed at myself for working myself up over something.

Slow mornings!

With Ellie on her Easter break from college, the mornings have been calm and slow here and I love it. There have been no alarm clocks set, we have been sleeping a little later, there has been no rushing and I have even managed breakfast most days this week! She has another week off and I am going to make the most of it. Stu has been off work too and it has been nice not waking up to his alarm too.

A sunset!

Watching something different!

I’ve been stepping slightly out of my comfort zone with what I watch. I’m usually more of a Marvel girl but since getting HBO Max I’ve been browsing a bit more and ended up going down the DC route. I watched Suicide Squad and then followed it with The Suicide Squad and I enjoyed them. I think the second one was better, it was a lot funnier and less serious than the first! Harley Quinn is fantastic. Totally unhinged and chaotic in the best way!

Not finishing a book!

This might sound like a strange one to include in a favourites post but bear with me. I started listening to the audiobook of Kill Them With Kindness by Will Carver and I liked the idea of it. A Japanese scientist messing with a virus to make people kinder and then things go wrong. I just couldn’t get into it. I gave it a good go, listened for about three hours and it just didn't do it for me. At first, I felt a bit rubbish about it, like I should push through it because I’d started it and then I thought life is too short to spend hours on something you’re not enjoying, so I stopped it and moved onto my next book. It was quite freeing and a lesson that sometimes it's OK not to finish things.

Easter Eggs!

Of course we have eaten a lot of chocolate this week. I was very happy with my Easter Egg, a huge Galaxy one and I chose it well. The rest of my family chose theirs and ended up with thin oval-shaped eggs while mine was big and round. They felt very short-changed. Hehehe

Summer weather in April!

On Wednesday it felt like summer here. It was only 21C (around 69F) but that is practically summer weather. My youngest said it was freaky. The last time she remembered it this warm at this time of year was back in 2020 when we were in the first lockdown because of "the virus." I am sure it has been just as warm since in April but I get what she meant. We were out in town and everyone was in shorts and T-shirts. It feels like summer arrived early at least for one day. It was back to being grey and cloudy yesterday but still a little warm.

What have you loved over the past week?

Exam stress and how to support from the sidelines!

Exam season is starting soon here in the UK. GCSE's, A-Levels, end of year exams and whatever other exams always seem to happen at this time of year. Exam season has a way of taking over the whole house, even when you’re not the one sitting the exams. Suddenly there are revision notes everywhere, the kettle is working overtime and emotions are running a bit high. If you’ve been there you’ll know exactly what I mean. You’re not revising but you’re still very much in it.

I’ve been through exams with my girls and supporting from the sidelines is a strange role. You want to help, you want to fix the stress and you also don’t want to say the wrong thing and make it worse. Over time, I’ve picked up a few handy hints which are mostly through trial and error. This post is about what exam stress really looks like at home, how to support without hovering and the small things that actually help when the pressure is on.

Before I even get into what I do, let’s talk about what exam stress actually looks like because it doesn’t always come across with your kids saying they are stressed. Sometimes it looks like: Snapping over tiny things, suddenly deciding they hate a subject they were fine with last week, bursting into tears because they can't find the right spoon, avoiding revision altogether, trying to revise everything at once and burning out by Tuesday and sometimes it looks like they’re absolutely fine until 11pm when panic suddenly arrives.

One thing I’ve learned is not to dismiss it. Exams feel huge when you’re in them, even if we know as adults that life doesn’t hinge on one paper on a Thursday morning. So acknowledge it and say things like, you know it's hard and it makes sense they're feeling fed up. That alone takes the edge off.

I don’t try to be the teacher!

Early on, I made the classic mistake of trying to help too much. Sitting down with revision guides, asking questions, explaining things the way I understood them. That lasted about five minutes before everyone was annoyed. They don’t need us to reteach algebra or Shakespeare, that’s what school, teachers, YouTube, and revision apps are for. What they need from us is support. Now, my role is more asking what they’re revising today, helping them break things into chunks, being a sounding board when they want to rant about a topic and if they ask for help, great and if not, I stay in my lane.

Focus on progress, not perfection!

One of the biggest stress triggers is the idea that they have to know everything. Every topic, every quote, every formula and that’s just not realistic! So always bring it back to progress. Instead of: You should be revising more, go with: What have you covered today? Instead of: You don’t know that yet? try: You know more than you did last week. Little shifts like that matter. They stop revision feeling pointless and start it feeling doable. Exams aren’t about being perfect, they’re about doing the best you can with what you know on the day.

Food, sleep, and water matter more than we think!

This sounds obvious but it’s the bit people forget first. When exams roll around, routines go a bit wobbly. Late nights revising, skipped meals, living on snacks and caffeine and then everyone wonders why emotions are all over the place. Don’t lecture about health, make sure there’s proper food available, encourage actual meals, not just grabbing biscuits, nudge bedtime when you can and hand over drinks without making a thing of it. A tired, hungry brain is not a helpful brain. Even an extra half hour of sleep can make a difference the next day. I’ve seen it happen.

Help them plan but don’t micromanage!

Revision timetables can either be brilliant or completely ignored. There is no in-between. What’s worked best for us is keeping things flexible. A rough plan rather than a strict schedule. Knowing what they want to revise and not setting times to do it will just create guilt when plans change. What exams are coming up first? What topics feel hardest? What do they already feel OK about? Then prioritise the hard stuff earlier. Easier stuff later and the rest slotted in somewhere. Once the plan exists, step back and it is up to them. If I hover, it becomes my stress, not theirs, and that never ends well.

Talk about nerves before exam day, not just during!

Exam nerves don’t wait politely until the morning of the exam. They creep in days before, especially at night when everything feels louder. So talk about it in advance. What exam day will actually look like, how nerves are normal and expected. That feeling shaky doesn’t mean you’ll do badly. I remind them that nerves are just energy, you can walk into an exam feeling nervous and still do absolutely fine. I also share stories from my own school days. Not in a "back in my day" way but in a "I survived this and you will too" way. It helps them see that this will end.

On exam mornings keep things calm and boring!

Exam mornings are not the time for pep talks or last-minute cramming. Have a normal routine, a calm voice with no big emotional speeches. Say things like, "You’ve done what you can," or "Just do your best and see what happens." Then talk about something completely unrelated. What’s for tea. A TV show. Anything but the exam. They already know it matters. They don’t need reminding at 8:15am.

Get ready for the emotional crash after!

Something I didn’t expect the first time around was the after part. That moment when they come home and everything spills out. Relief, tears, anger, overthinking every answer. From the sidelines, this is when listening matters most. Let them talk, nod, agree that it was tough and then gently steer them away from replaying every question. Once it’s done, it’s done, there’s no prize for suffering twice!

Remind them they are more than their grades!

This is probably the most important bit. Exams can make kids feel like a number, a letter or a result and I never want them to feel like that, so I will tell them that I am proud of the effort, not just the outcome. One exam doesn’t define them. I’ve watched my girls grow through exams. Not just academically but emotionally too. They’ve learned resilience, time management, and how to keep going when things feel hard. Those skills matter far beyond any certificate.

If you’re walking this road with your own kids right now, give yourself some credit. You’re juggling so much and that’s no small thing and when it’s finally done, take a breath, put the kettle on and remember you got through it together and that matters just as much as any result!

Are your kids taking any exams over the next couple of months?

The Wednesday Hodgepodge #50

I hope you are all having a good week. It's Wednesday, which means it's time to join in with the Wednesday Hodgepodge with Joyce who blogs at From This Side of the Pond! Each week there are 6 questions, we answer and then link up. Simple!

1. Egg on your face, putting all your eggs in one basket, a good egg, walk on eggshells, nest egg, or a tough egg to crack...which eggy idiom currently applies to your life in some way? Explain

This one had me staring at the list for a bit because none of them really jumped out at me straight away. If I had to pick one, it would be "walk on eggshells." It's nothing serious and more in a blogging sense. I share lots of my life online and it's a bit of a balancing act. I want to be open and real but there’s also lots that I don't share. Sometimes, when I write I wonder how some people will take it and I, of course, don't want to upset or unintentionally offend someone. So I tweak things, soften things or just leave them out completely. Now and again I will write a whole blog post ranting about something and then just not publish it. It is good to get it all out of my head and written down.

2. April 7th is National Beer Day...are you a beer drinker? If so do you have a favorite? Beer battered fish, beer bread, beer can chicken, beer brats...which one sounds good to you? Have you made any of these?

No, I don't drink beer at all, I am more of a wine or cocktail drinker. Even the smell of beer puts me off. I really don't like the taste or understand how people can enjoy it but I am betting that beer drinkers feel the same about wine.

When it comes to food, I’m not totally anti-beer. I do like beer batter, especially when it comes to fish and onion rings but I had to Google what others were. Beer canned chicken just looks wrong but I do like the look of beer bread and beer brats.

3. Do you have siblings? What's the best thing about being your sibling? If you don't have siblings, what would you say are the pros and cons of being an only child?

I have a brother. He is the best but I am biased. If something breaks, he’s the one who already owns the exact tool needed to fix it and if he doesn’t have one, he knows someone who does. He’s also just really calm in a crisis. I always joke that if anything ever went properly wrong in the world, I’m heading straight to his house because he’d have backup generators, supplies and probably a plan I don’t even know about. He is the type of person you need in your life when things are bad.

4. How do you feel about floral scents in products? Do you have a favorite?

Floral scents aren’t really my thing. Some of them can feel a bit too strong or overpowering and lavender is a big no for me. It’s meant to be calming but it makes me feel sick. If I had to pick something with a floral scent, it would be something really soft that you could hardly smell. Most of the time I’d choose fruity or clean scents over florals.

5. What's one thing in your home that begins with the letter G that you would say is a keeper, something you'll hold on to? Tell us why.

I’d say my Garden bits! I’ve slowly built up a little collection over the years. Pots, tools, little greenhouses, random ornaments and all sorts that live either in the shed or dotted around outside. A few bits came from my dad and other things I’ve picked up myself over time. Every year I end up adding something new and without fail I always seem to lose at least one gardening glove and have to buy another set.

6. Insert your own random thought here.

We are just coming to the end of a 4-day weekend and I am so confused about what day it is. Good Friday felt like a Saturday, Saturday felt like a Friday, Sunday just felt like a Sunday and Monday also felt like a Sunday. I am not complaining though, it has been nice to have my family home and have a relaxing long weekend. I know I am going to be off with what day it is all week. Tuesday will feel like a Monday and so on and just to add to the confusion, my fella Stu has a few days off work, so every day will feel like a Monday, his usual day off work. lol