What I have loved this week! Week 39. #FridayFavourites

Happy Friday! I hope you've all had a good week. We have had a really great week with lots going on. I have a few things that have made me smile this week and, of course, I am linking up with Erika and Andrea to share what I have loved this week!

Dolly Parton Day!

Today 9/25 is the day to honour the life and legacy of Dolly Parton and I couldn't not mention her on my Friday Favourites. You don't even have to be a big country music fan to know the words to songs like 9 to 5 or I will always love you but I think what made Dolly so special is everything she did outside of music! Her Imagination Library of course and helping people when they really needed it. Dolly may no longer be here, but her music, books, films, kindness and all the things she created are going nowhere. That's quite a legacy!

The Great British Bake Off!

It's back on TV and I do love it. The new series started here on Tuesday. Don't worry I won't be giving spoilers away apart from the first episode was very chaotic but Nigella Lawson has settled right in. She is so fancy though, especially when you hear her next to Alison Hammond.

A good start at work!

My youngest started work this week and she has got on great. It's been really lovely her coming home and telling us about her day, what she's been doing and the people she's met. The highlight of her week was getting a name badge which I had to give her a talking to about. She must remember to take it off when she comes out of work. I don't want any stranger knowing her name. She has made some new friends and thinks it's fantastic being treated like a real adult.

A country night!

I was out on Saturday night with friends at a local pub who had a country singer on. It was fantastic but so strange. Usually when singers are on at the pub most people are quite reserved and don't get up and dance until at least the second half of the performance but 2 songs in and we were up dancing and didn't really stop until the last song. It was such fun! In case you were wondering, it was Billy Ray Cyrus' Achy Breaky Heart which got us all up! lol

Samsung Galaxy AI Hot Chocolate!

Remember last week when Stu was given some Google Pixel socks from the reps who came to show off their new phones at his work, well this time it was Samsung's turn and they brought hot chocolate, reusable bags and water bottles for everyone. I claimed the hot chocolate and mini marshmallows. hehehe

Monster: The Lizzie Borden Story!

I finished watching Monster: The Lizzie Borden Story on Netflix yesterday and I can't decide how I felt about it. The acting was good, the story was interesting and it kept me watching but it is definitely not a show for the easily offended! I went into it knowing it was about Lizzie Borden and the murders so I was expecting some dark stuff. What I wasn't ready for was how rude and sweary it was. That song in I think the 2nd episode. Wow, it's not very often you hear the "C" word on TV and I don't think I've ever heard it in a song. Eek!

What have you loved this week?

The worst British snacks!

Late last year I wrote a blog post about my go-to snacks. You know the comforting ones you grab when you're peckish, bored, avoiding your responsibilities. Those snacks were the good ones but this post is dedicated to the British snacks that make you pause, squint and just wonder why they are even in existence.

Pickled Eggs!

Pickled eggs have been around forever. They're hard-boiled eggs that have been dunked in vinegar and left to marinate until they become pickled. You find them in old school pubs or behind chip shop counters but to me, they look like something from a science lab. Some people love them with a pint. They're rubbery, tangy and smell like they could strip paint!

Battered Mars bars!

Scotland's contribution to the dessert world! On paper, it sounds like a fun idea. A chocolate bar which is battered and deep fried but when you actually bite into one you realise the whole thing is an experience you weren't prepared for. The outside is hot and crispy and the chocolate inside is molten. The batter becomes strangely soggy, like it's confused about what it's meant to be and before you know it, you're drinking warm chocolate through the batter. The only time this snack makes sense is when you're drunk, freezing cold and standing outside a chippy at midnight.

Beef Jerky!

Beef jerky can be good in America but here is a gamble. Half the time it's so tough you feel like you're giving your jaw a workout. The other half is flavoured with something suspiciously labelled smoky BBQ that tastes like it was invented by someone who has never actually eaten BBQ. It's salty, chewy and it sticks in your teeth like it's trying to live there rent free!

Cheese Strings!

Cheese Strings is a childhood snack that tricks you into believing you're eating cheese. They're marketed as fun because you can pull them apart into strings, which is the most exciting part of the whole experience. They taste slightly cheesy, like rubber and bouncy enough to question what percentage is actually dairy. Kids love them but for grown adults, you're basically eating a cheese flavoured candle.

Marmite on toast!

This is the snack that divides the nation. People either love it, hate it and feel strongly about it. For those of us who are firmly on the absolutely not side, Marmite is a snack that can ruin your whole day with just one smear. It's salty, intense and tastes like misery. The smell alone can clear a room faster than a fire alarm!

Mini pots of trifle!

Trifle is lovely. Proper trifles but mini supermarket trifles are not good. The cream tastes like thick nothing, the jelly always feels warm, even when it's been in the fridge and the sponge is somehow both soggy and dry at the same time, which shouldn't be possible. Every layer feels like it belongs to a different dessert.

Cup a Soup (especially Tomato)!

I love a comforting soup but Cup a Soup is something else. The tomato flavour tastes like someone tried to liquefy ketchup and accidentally added dust. It's got that weird powdery aftertaste and it never mixes properly! You always end up with little clumps floating around. If you want soup, make soup.

Pork Scratchings!

A pub classic but also a dental hazard. When they're good, they’re crunchy, salty and satisfying. When they're not good, they’re rock hard, painfully salty and sharp enough to cause an injury. Some even have hair on them. Eww!

Rice Cakes (Especially Plain Ones!)

Rice cakes are one of those snacks people pretend to enjoy when they're being healthy but they taste like air. Flavoured ones are fine, but the plain ones just make me sad. You might as well chew on cardboard. At least cardboard has texture.

Twiglets!

I'm sorry if you love them, I really am but Twiglets taste like burnt Marmite on a stick. They're crunchy but they also taste like they were designed to test if you really are a snack lover. Marmite is already controversial enough, we didn't need a crunchy version trying to ruin our days too!

If you love any of these, no judgement, you're braver than me. I am sure some of these snacks were invented as a dare. Now I'm curious, what's the worst snack you've ever tried?

The Wednesday Hodgepodge #74

I hope you are all having a good week. It's Wednesday, which means it's time to join in with the Wednesday Hodgepodge with Joyce who blogs at From This Side of the Pond! Each week there are 6 questions, we answer and then link up. Simple!

1. Fall arrives this week in the northern hemisphere. Does it look/feel like fall where you live? What's something you love to do this time of year that makes you feel its officially fall?

It is really starting to feel like autumn here in England. On Monday, when I was writing this, it was sunny but colder than it has been. Some days it feels like summer is still hanging on, when we have the odd warm day but you can feel the chill in the air, especially in the morning. I don't want to get up in the morning and would rather stay under the duvet and poor Stu leaves for work with a jacket and jumper on as it's cold and by the time he's coming home he's having to carry it as it still warms up later in the day. It's getting darker earlier in the evening and it won't be long until the clocks go back. The leaves are starting to change. Some are still green but I'm starting to see more yellow, orange and brown appearing! I have noticed Conker shells on the ground. I couldn't see any conkers but it won't be long until they start appearing too. I do like collecting them. Years ago my great aunt said that if you have conkers around the house it keeps the spiders away. I'm sure it's an old wives tale but it's something I still do.

Getting under a blanket is one of the things that make it feel like autumn has arrived. I always have a blanket next to my armchair so I can grab it whenever I want it. At the moment, it's not really cold enough for it all the time but it's nice to put over me when I am wanting that warm, tucked up feeling. It’s a brilliant blanket, it has a bit of weight to it so it doesn't fall off all the time, it is thick and it is very cosy. In a month or so, it will be over me all the time when I am sat here on my laptop or watching TV.

2. What's a small daily task or chore that always seems to fall through the cracks when your schedule gets busy?

For me, it's probably putting clothes away properly. I can keep on top of the laundry, getting it all washed and get it all dried but actually folding it and putting it away seems to be the bit that gets forgotten when I'm busy. I always think I'll do that later and later comes and there's still a pile of clean clothes sitting there!

3. What's something you're falling for lately?

I'm falling for hot chocolate again. I don't need much of an excuse to have one but the chillier and darker evenings somehow make it feel right. Now I am having a hot chocolate in an evening instead of my usual cup of tea. Over the summer, I didn't drink hot chocolate at all and I always forget how much I enjoy it. Mostly I just have plain hot chocolate but sometimes treat myself and top it with cream and marshmallows and when December comes around I will add a drop of Bailey's Irish Cream.

4. Pumpkin is a popular flavor this time of year. Are you a fan? What's your favorite pumpkin flavored food or beverage?

I am a fan of pumpkin but I like it more in sweet things rather than savoury dishes. Now is when you start seeing everything pumpkins in the shops and it's hard not to get tempted by it all. My favourite drink has to be a Pumpkin Spice Latte from Starbucks. I love having an iced one while it's still warm outside and then switching to a hot one when the weather gets colder. If Autumn had a taste, that would be it. Food wise, I have just discovered a cranberry & pumpkin seed bread that is delicious. I just have it with butter spread on.

5. What's something you wish would never change? Explain.

I think it would be family time. Things have changed as my girls have got older but I never want to lose those times that we have together. Even when the girls move out, I hope we still have those moments. Enjoying a nice meal together, watching TV, random phone calls talking about nothing, going out somewhere or just having a laugh over something silly, usually the TikTok videos that they send me.

6. Insert your own random thought here.

Poor Ellie, my youngest had a midday appointment all sorted and then a couple of days before they went and moved it to 10am which actually worked out better for her day anyway. So she gets all the way into town, steps right off the bus and they ring and say it's been moved back to midday! When she told me, I asked why she didn't just tell them she was already there and see if they could squeeze her in early. She said she hadn't thought of doing that. Bless her. When I was her age, I was exactly the same, terrified of making a fuss, asking a question or being an inconvenience to anyone. It’s taken me a lot of life experience and years to gain the confidence to realise that sometimes you need to speak up and ask! The worst they can do is say no and then you're no worse off than you started. I gave Ellie a little pep talk and she promised me she'd try asking next time. It's hard being a grown up!

Parenting young adults - When their partner stays over!

Nobody really warns you about this stage of parenting. You get plenty of notice about sleepless nights, tantrums, slammed doors and teenagers who communicate entirely in sighs but nobody sits you down and says one day another adult will stay in your house and it will feel strange for reasons you can't quite explain! When your children are adults and have been in a solid relationship for a decent amount of time, it's bound to happen, they want their person to stay over. Eek! 

I thought I'd be relaxed about it. I told myself I'm modern, reasonable and there would be no stress over the partner of your adult child staying over and I said it all very confidently, right up until the first time it actually happened and that is a whole different story! Oh! and before anyone jumps to any conclusions, don't assume there are shenanigans happening and people are sharing beds.

The first stay is just weird! The house feels different. Everyone’s polite in an over-the-top way. My young adult keeps checking in with me using their eyes, like they’re asking permission but without words. Their partner is doing that careful guest behaviour where they’re trying not to take up too much space, even though their presence alone already feels quite big. That first night, I go to bed far more awake than usual. Not worried exactly, just aware. Aware of doors closing and of footsteps moving around. It is just weird!

Morning comes and immediately I remember someone else is here. I suddenly care about how I look when I leave my bedroom, even though this is the same house where I will happily wander around with no bra on, scruffy PJs and with my hair doing whatever it wants. I become oddly aware of my voice, my clothes and the general state of things. Then comes the first kitchen moment. That overly cheerful "good morning". Everyone is smiling a bit too hard. Breakfast is awkward. I don’t know whether to offer breakfast or pretend I was just grabbing something and will be back later. They don’t know whether to sit, stand, or hang around near the doorway. Your young adult goes to the bathroom, abandoning me and then I have to make small talk, it is just so awkward.

I notice me editing myself too. There is less muttering, less narrating what I'm doing and fewer random comments fired out there. I'm still me but a slightly toned down version. I'm the version I use around people you don’t know very well yet. Which feels odd, because this is my house and I usually don’t filter much at all. As the day goes on, things ease a little with conversations lasting longer and then nighttime rolls around again, bringing with it that same quietness. I don’t talk about it but you know everyone else is aware too.

What surprised me most was how grown up it all felt in a how did we get here so fast! One minute I was tying their shoelaces, the next I'm sharing a sofa with another adult who is part of my child’s life now. This person isn’t just passing through, they matter to my young adult and that adds some extra importance to everything. I want to be welcoming without putting on a show, I want to be myself and I want my home to feel safe for everyone.

By the second or third stay over, things become a lot less awkward but still not how they usually are. I've moved past the initial shock but I'm still getting used to things. I start noticing things more. The way the house sounds with an extra person in it and how conversations change slightly. It is different having another adult around, someone who isn’t your responsibility but is still there, someone who belongs to another family, another home and is now in mine for a short time. Somewhere in the middle of all this, I've had a few emotional moments and realised this isn’t really about the guest at all, it’s about my child growing up, about them building relationships that don’t revolve around me and I am no longer the centre of their world!

As time goes on, the awkwardness does fade. I've stopped overthinking everything, worrying about if I'm doing things right and I have gone back to being more myself. The house has settled down again, even with an extra person in it and sometimes, if I'm lucky, that extra adult starts to feel less like a guest and more like a member of the family. Someone I can chat to easily and who fits into the rhythm of the house without trying too hard. It doesn’t happen straight away and it doesn’t happen all the time but when it does, it takes the edge off those wobbly days.

If you’re in that stage now, feeling like your house has shifted slightly and you’re still adjusting, that’s normal. It doesn’t mean you’re not supportive or relaxed or handling it well. It just means you’re human and this is one of those quiet parenting milestones nobody really talks about and if nothing else, it’s proof that somehow, without much warning at all, you’ve raised someone old enough to bring another adult home and that’s both a lovely thing and a slightly surreal one all at the same time.