This week my Word of the Week is: Balance!! #WotW

This week my Word of the Week is:

This week has been full. There has been a bit of stress, a bit of laughter, a few complaints, a lot of good moments and somehow it all balanced out in the end. Not a perfect week but the kind of week where the scales tipped back and forth but settled in a good place.

All my family have been home for most of it and I’ve loved having them here. I know I sometimes moan about the noise or them not tidying up after themselves but when everyone is out doing their own thing I miss it. The girls have got along brilliantly and I mean brilliantly by our standards. There’s usually at least one disagreement about something tiny that turns into something big but this week there has been hardly anything. We’ve eaten meals together, had pancakes on Tuesday, watched TV and it felt like a week long catch up. There were chats about everything and nothing, random stories, old memories, silly jokes and a lot of fun!

Stu took a week off work just for a break after the Christmas and New Year rush and he has had quite a relaxing week apart from when he was painting the dining room. He didn't faff around as much as I thought he would so that kept me happy as he had it all done within a couple of days. Phew! It would have been done earlier in the week if not for the B&Q situation. I ordered some things that we needed and they said it would be delivered on Monday. Monday came and went and there was nothing. I rang Tuesday and they casually told me they could deliver on Thursday at the earliest. That’s practically next year when you’re waiting for something. Ugh! So in the politest way possible I told them to cancel it. Stu went into town and got what we needed instead.

Wednesday was the day I had been dreading all week: getting my contraceptive implant changed. I lost sleep the night before, which tells you how much previous experiences have bothered me. If you’ve been around here a while, you’ll know it hasn’t always gone smoothly. One time the bandage was put on so tight I ended up with huge blisters. Another time they couldn’t get the old implant out, I was so sore and last time they forgot to order the replacement, so I had one removed and then had to go back days later to have the new one inserted in the other arm. I was useless for a week afterwards. My arm ached, I felt drained and was determined not to go back to the doctors. So I found an alternative, a clinic in town and this time it went smoothly! I kept waiting for something to go wrong but it didn’t happen. The nurse was calm and confident, she removed the old implant and explained that it had originally been placed somewhere it shouldn’t have been, which could have caused issues if it attached to the muscle. At least that explained the previous drama with it being difficult to remove. She put the new one in a better position and that was that. My arm was sore afterwards but compared to previous times it was nothing! By yesterday it was already feeling almost normal. I built it up so much in my head and in the end it was fine. More balance, worry on one side, relief on the other!

While we were in town we stumbled across a continental market on the high street. All the little stalls had different cuisines from different countries with plenty of smells drifting around. We had a wander but didn’t buy anything because we already knew where we were heading for lunch, somewhere warm with proper toilets! It was bitterly cold on Wednesday and by the time we got home, we were frozen through. We spent the rest of the afternoon wrapped up, trying to thaw out.

Thursday was spent not doing much at all, my arm was still sore and we just needed a day to relax fully before having a busy day yesterday. We went to see my dad and Stu had shelves to put up in the living room which meant moving furniture. It's a good job Ellie was home to help with the lifting. Today is supposed to be 13°C. That feels practically tropical for this time of year. I might even get into the garden. It’s been on my to-do list for weeks but between the rain and the cold I haven’t managed it.

When I look back over the week, balance really is the word that fits best. There were moments I could have happily stamped my feet over: late deliveries, cold winds, stressing about my contraceptive implant but they were matched with laughter, time with family, jobs finally finished and a sense of relief when things went right. It wasn’t a perfect week but it was real life, a mix of messy bits and magic bits.

How has your week been? I hope you have had a good one! I am of course linking up with Anne who blogs at Raisie Bay to join in with her Word of the Week linky!

What I have loved this week! Week 8. #FridayFavourites

Happy Friday! I hope you have all had a good week! Mine has been great with lots of nice moments and good things happening, I will be sad to see it end. As always, I’m linking up with Erika and Andrea to share the things that I have loved over the past week.

Having lots of family time!

This week has been all about having everyone at home. Stu has had a week off work, Ellie has been on half-term from college and Becky had a couple of days off too. The house has been full and I have loved it. We’ve had that perfect mix of sitting in the same room doing our own thing: phones, TV, games, scrolling and then properly doing things together. We’ve laughed a lot and made plenty of little memories. My dad popped around to drop off a few bits. When I say a few bits I mean the most random things as usual. This time it was Wensleydale and cranberry cheese and some black pudding. Not to be eaten together, just to clarify. I feel like he goes shopping and just thinks Kim will like that and into the basket it goes. I never know what he’s going to turn up with. lol

A card and roses!

Stu and I had agreed that we weren’t doing cards or gifts but he didn’t fully mean it. We got back from a shopping trip and there was a box waiting for me. Inside was a card and the most beautiful bunch of roses. I was so surprised. They’re still looking lovely now and every time I walk past them I smile.

Football!

If you know us, you’ll know we are a Newcastle United house. So when they’re doing well, we’re all in a better mood. At the weekend we caught most of the FA Cup match on TV. When we turned it on, they were already 1-0 down but then they equalised, then scored again and then another. The final score was 3-1 to Newcastle! We were so chuffed. The referee was not great and that’s me being polite. It wasn’t just us shouting at the TV, the pundits were saying the same thing. Then came the draw for the next round and of course we got Man City. We never seem to beat them and it feels like we always end up facing them at the worst possible time. Midweek we had a Champions League match, first leg of two and we won 6-1. Howay the lads!

Pancakes!

Tuesday was Pancake Day here in the UK and I took my role very seriously. I stood at the cooker flipping pancake after pancake like some sort of production line. Sugar and lemon, golden syrup, chocolate spread and then I finally made a little stack for myself. Just as I sat down to eat them, my dad walked in. He didn’t even realise it was Pancake Day and immediately pinched some off my plate. lol

The hair dye drama!

Early in the week, Ellie asked me to dye her hair. I’ve done it so many times now, I could probably do it with my eyes closed but as I was putting the dye on, I did think the colour looked a bit different, slightly lighter but I assumed she’d picked her usual one. While I was applying it I kept saying this doesn’t look like your normal red but she insisted it was fine. We waited for it to dry and once it was done, she looked at it and said it wasn’t right and then looked at me like it was my fault. Eesh! So I did a bit of detective work and went back through photos of the boxes she'd used before. It turns out she usually buys Red Passion but this time it was Real Red, a completely different shade! Hahaha I was not to blame. We all ended up laughing about it and it actually suits her.

A painted dining room!

Stu made good use of his time off work and painted the dining room. It was a magnolia colour and he painted it white, it looks so much fresher and brighter now!

A good medical appointment!

I had an appointment to change my contraceptive implant in my arm and I was dreading it but it went really well. The nurse really put me at ease. She went through all the usual questions, like do you have any medical issues, take any medication, drink alcohol or smoke and without skipping a beat asked how often I dyed my hair because it looks amazing! That really threw me but in a good way and made me laugh out loud and it was just what I needed at that moment to calm my nerves!

Money returned!

I ordered some things and they were set to be delivered on Monday but nothing arrived. I called on Tuesday and spoke to someone. They said the earliest they could deliver was Thursday! That was not what I signed up for, so I cancelled my order. I didn't expect the money back this week so when I got a notification saying it was back in my bank on Wednesday I was pleasantly surprised! I love it when things are straightforward with no chasing and no arguing!

What have you loved over the last week?

National Nestbox Week: How to give your garden birds a safe home!

I know February can feel a bit grim. The weather can’t quite make its mind up, the garden looks a little tired, and we’re all still pretending it’s not that long until spring but National Nestbox Week is one of those little reminders that brighter days are coming and that nature is already quietly getting itself organised. Every year, starting on the 14th of February, bird lovers across the UK are encouraged to put up nest boxes and help create safe spaces for birds to raise their chicks.

Spotting birds in the garden makes me happy. There’s something about watching a robin hopping about or a blue tit swinging off a feeder like it’s auditioning for a circus that just makes everything feel a bit better and when you realise they might actually raise a family right there in your garden, it's exciting but as lovely as it is to watch National Nestbox Week isn’t just about cute moments through the kitchen window. According to the RSPB around one in four bird species in the UK are under serious threat. That is not a small number and it means those simple things we do, like putting up a nest box or keeping a feeder topped up aren’t just nice little hobbies, they actually matter!

Why nest boxes matter!

Birds need safe, sheltered spaces to lay their eggs and raise their chicks and in many areas natural nesting sites are disappearing. Old trees with holes are cut down, hedgerows are ripped out and modern gardens often look very neat but don’t offer much cover. Nest boxes provide that safe space. They’re essentially a little home away from home for birds, a place where they can raise their young without the risk of predators or bad weather and it’s not just a handful of species that benefit. From robins, blue tits and great tits to sparrows, wrens and even starlings, many garden birds will happily make a new nest if you provide the right conditions.

You don’t need a huge garden!

One of the best things about National Nestbox Week is how accessible it is. You don’t need acres of land, fancy equipment or expert knowledge. A small garden, a bit of wall, a fence or even a sturdy tree is more than enough to get started. Birds really aren’t that fussy, as long as they feel safe.

How to take part in National Nestbox Week!

Taking part is really simple, you don’t need to be a professional birdwatcher. Here are a few easy ways to get involved:

Put up a nest box - You can buy nest boxes from garden centres, online shops or even supermarkets these days. There are loads of styles, from very basic wooden ones to fancy-looking designs. Birds don’t care how stylish it is, so simple is fine. If you’re handy, making one yourself can be a nice little project too. There are plenty of simple plans online and it doesn’t need to be perfect. A solid box with the right sized entrance hole is what matters. Placement is important though. Try to put the box somewhere quiet, away from busy paths and constant noise. It should be out of direct sunlight and sheltered from strong winds. Around 1.5 to 2 metres off the ground is ideal and helps keep it out of reach of cats and other predators.

Feed your birds - Even before nesting season really kicks off, birds need plenty of energy. Winter takes a lot out of them and breeding season is hard work. Keeping feeders topped up with seeds, nuts or suet makes a big difference. If you’re feeding birds, consistency is key. Once they know your garden is a good food stop, they’ll keep coming back.

Provide fresh water - A birdbath or shallow dish of water is perfect for drinking and bathing. Change the water regularly to keep it clean, especially in freezing weather.

Plant bird-friendly greenery - If you’re thinking longer term, planting shrubs, bushes and trees that birds love is a brilliant move. Dense plants give them shelter, places to hide and somewhere to rest. They also attract insects, which are an essential food source for chicks. You don’t need to overhaul your whole garden. Even one or two bird-friendly plants can make a difference.

Watching and Enjoying the Magic!

Once your nest box is up and your garden feels welcoming, it’s a bit of a waiting game. Birds might take a while to notice the box. They might inspect it, pop in and out and then disappear for a bit. This is all completely normal. It can be tempting to keep checking or peeking inside but it’s best to leave it alone. Too much disturbance can put birds off, especially early on. Trust that they know what they’re doing. If no one moves in this year, don’t be disheartened. Sometimes it takes time. Boxes often get used the following season once birds are familiar with them.

National Nestbox Week is a reminder that nature is right there, even in the middle of everyday life. You don’t need to go anywhere special to make a difference. You can do it from your own back garden and when you know that bird populations are struggling, it feels good to know you’re doing something practical.

Do you get many birds in your garden?

The Wednesday Hodgepodge #43

I hope you are all having a good week. It's Wednesday, which means it's time to join in with the Wednesday Hodgepodge with Joyce who blogs at From This Side of the Pond! Each week there are 6 questions, we answer and then link up. Simple!

1. The Hodgepodge lands on Ash Wednesday, which is the first day of Lent. Do you mark this season in some way? Will you be giving something up or adding something to your life in this Lenten season?

I don’t really do Lent in a traditional sense. It’s just not something I’ve grown up marking in a big way but I do like the idea behind it. The whole pause and reflecting is a little reset for your habits and mindset. If I were going to do Lent properly, I don’t think I’d give something up. I’d probably add something in instead: a short walk on days when I’d normally stay glued to the sofa, add in doing something productive like a craft instead of endless scrolling and add more proper catch-ups with my favourite people instead of the "we must meet soon" messages that never quite turn into plans.

2. Pancakes...are you a fan? Syrup or no syrup? Plain, blueberries, chocolate chips, bananas, or some other add in? Are pancakes on your menu this week?

Yesterday was Shrove Tuesday here in the UK so of course we had pancakes! It would have been rude not to and not just one polite pancake either, we went all in. We are not fans of savoury pancakes, to do pancake day properly you need sugar involved! Hehehe Mine were the classic lemon juice and golden syrup. The girls, on the other hand had Nutella, bananas, strawberries, syrup, lemon and sugar and possibly everything at once. It was worth it! I love that Shrove Tuesday gives us an excuse to eat dessert for tea and we call it tradition!

3. Tell us about a time recently when you felt 'spread too thin'.

I can’t pinpoint one exact moment but it’s usually when everything at home ramps up at once. The washing basket is overflowing, there are appointments to remember, everyone needs something, meals need planning, the house needs tidying, messages need replying to and suddenly I feel like I’m being pulled in about six different directions. Being a mum to two young adult daughters means I’m not running around after toddlers anymore but I’m still very much in the thick of it. I think the mental load is what does it. Keeping track of who needs to be where, who’s feeling what, what’s in the fridge and what’s coming up next week. It’s a lot sometimes. Right now, things feel calm and manageable and I’ve learned to recognise that spread too thin feeling earlier than I used to, so I can calm things down before it all gets too much!

4. What's your favorite jewel or gemstone? In terms of your wardrobe would we find more gem tones, pastels, black and white, or primary colors?

I don’t think I have a favourite gemstone in the traditional sense. I can’t tell you the difference between half of them if I’m being asked to identify them in a line up but my favourite jewel is absolutely my engagement ring.

Stu proposed when the girls were little and it feels like a lifetime ago now. Over the years, my weight has gone up and down and after a while the original ring didn’t fit properly, so I stopped wearing it. A few years ago he replaced it, and the new one fits perfectly. It’s not about how big or flashy it is, it’s about what it represents and the fact that, after all these years, we’re still here.

When it comes to my wardrobe I have a lot of black items. It goes with everything and when I do branch out into colour, it’s usually darker shades. Deep greens, burgundy, navy, plum. I like rich tones that still feel safe. Pastels and bright colours are not really me. Even my PJs are dark.

5. What responsibility do you think is hardest about being in charge?

Being the one who has to say no! Being a parent of two young adults means that I am mostly still in charge and I don't always get to be the fun one. Sometimes I'm the gatekeeper, the budget doesn’t stretch, the timing isn’t right and the idea isn’t workable. Even when I understand why one of my girls wants something, even when I’d love to say yes and be the fun one, sometimes I can’t and repeating no over and over can make me feel like the villain in my own house. Being in charge isn’t about being popular, it’s about making the decisions that keeps everything ticking along safely and sensibly.

6. Insert your own random thought here.

We’re mid-way through the week and it has been one of those nice but busy ones where everyone is home at the same time. Stu has just about finished painting the dining room and I can’t tell you how good it feels to see it nearly done. Having everyone at home makes the days louder and busier but in a good way. There are random chats in the kitchen and the background noise of life ticking along. I might moan when I trip over someone’s shoes or when I can’t find my favourite mug but secretly I love that they’re all here. The house feels full. It’s funny because when they’re all out I enjoy the quiet but when we get these stretches of time together, I’m reminded that this is the bit I’ll miss one day.