It is natural to judge other people even though you say you don't judge people. It's human nature but looking down on someone because of what they wear, how they look, how much they earn or whatever other reason is wrong.
I am probably one of billions who have had people looking down on me all of my life. It used to really bother me but over the last couple of years I just think stuff you. I just think it's funny, especially as a lot of those people looking down on me are not perfect and they probably have the totally wrong idea of me.
At school there was always those who had the latest trainers, the most fashionable clothes and the coolest bags. I didn't come from a poor family but my mam and dad were sensible with their money. Why buy a branded pair of trainers when you could pay a fraction of the price for an unbranded pair, save the money and treat my brother & I to a great day out to a theme park or save it for a holiday. It was sensible but of course being a child and then a teenager I didn't understand that and I was looked down on because I didn't have the coolest things. I wanted the best and most expensive of everything but now I understand it. Now I buy mid range things for girls. Not the cheapest things but not the most expensive either.
I have always looked young for my age. I am 41 now and I sometimes still get asked for ID to buy a bottle of wine. lol People look down on me because I look young for my age. There is one moment which stick in my mind. I was in my late 20's when Ellie was born, we were still in the hospital and Ellie was sweating so I took the hat off they put on her after being born. I was being patronised and talked down to by a midwife who didn't look much older than me. She thought I was a new mother who didn't know any better. They failed to realise I was heading towards 30 years old and already had a 5 year old. A midwife actually said to me that she thought I was a teenage mum who needed a bit of guidance. It actually turns out the sweating was a sign of Ellie's heart defect and it turns out my motherly instincts were right.
For a long, long time I didn't have my own URL on here. I used the free blogspot address and I was looked down on by PR companies and some bloggers because of that, despite blogging daily for over 5 years at the time. I was called unreliable and was told that I wasn't a real blogger. Now I have my own URL there is still people who look down on me. You really can't please everyone.
Having a hair colour which isn't natural causes people to judge. People assume that because I have a loud hair colour that I am loud, confident and trouble which I am not at all. I am the exact opposite. At least with those people who do give me a chance, my hair colour gives us something to talk about.
When we first moved here there was a few people locally who judged and looked down on me and my family. I remember an acquaintance of my dad's that used to just grunt at me when I said good morning or afternoon. He had his own ideas of why I moved here and his ideas couldn't have been any further from the truth. Now he has got to know me and knows I am not a threat he is quite chatty. I am not that person he thought I was. One of our neighbours said she didn't like the look of us when we moved in but now she's got to know us her view of us has changed. Phew!
I am actually past caring now when people look down on me and judge me. If they can't take the time and get to know me for who I am they are really not worth my time!
Do you get bothered when people look down on you or judge you?
