Wednesday 26 April 2017

Family is a funny thing....

Family is a funny thing....I don't have a large family. Sometimes I wish I did for the fun aspect of it like at Christmas and birthdays but 95% of the time I am happy with my family just how it is....


My grandparents from my fathers side are dead and my dad is an only child.....My mother fell out with her parents when I was a baby and now my mother is dead. She has a sister who I can't remember ever speaking to and I have cousins from her side of the family which I don't know or talk to....

I have a brother who is a couple of years younger than my but we grew apart and he did things which I did not agree with....He has fallen out with most of my family now. I could write a whole blog post about him being an idiot but that might be for another day.....hehehe

The only blood family I have actual contact with is my dad, my great Aunt and my nephew.....I have a couple of my dad's cousins and their children who I keep in touch with on Facebook but the distance between us is a problem....Ugh

I saw something on Facebook. One of those pointless passive aggressive pictures people posts. It got me thinking about my family..... 


I don't think the people you call family have to be blood related.....

Sarah....My dad's girlfriend. Oh I hate saying that. They are both too old to call them boyfriend and girlfriend and he is my dad. I don't want to think about them being boyfriend and girlfriend.....Eww! As far as I know they are not planning on getting married so Sarah won't be becoming my step mother anytime soon but she is as good as. I would go as far to say she has been a mother figure to me for the last couple of years.....She is good for my dad. I am shy and socially awkward. I find it hard to speak to people but she is one of few people that I can speak to without thinking and analysing every word I say. I feel comfortable with her.....

Louise is my nephews mother. I met her about 18 years ago which seems a lifetime ago, way before any of us thought about kids. We always have a good giggle about the fact we all went on all the roller coasters at Alton Towers when she was a few weeks pregnant. (Obviously before she knew). Louise isn't my sister in law. Her and my brother have been split up for about 14 years. She hasn't really had any contact with him in about 8 years. When they split she said she would keep in touch but I never thought she would but she has been true to her word and she visits about twice a year......She drives up from Scunthorpe, stops off at my great aunts for the night then brings her up to visit too.....She got as far as my great aunts last week and then the exhaust fell off her car. Oops. Louise is just one of those people who are genuine and honest.....I had some issues in my life a couple of months ago and after a few phone calls to her my mind was put to ease....She is one of those calming people who see's the positive in everything.

Then there is my friends. I have three close friends and they are there through the good and bad....We may not see each other as much as we did when all our kids were in the same school but I know they would be there for me if I needed anything....

Another time when blood doesn't count is when it comes to my fella Stu and my teen Becky....Stu is not Becky's biological father but he is her dad. I'm not going to go into the details about Becky's biological father....

People don't realise that Becky and Ellie are not full sisters...They look so alike and are so alike....When it was discovered they had problems with their hearts their defects were identical. They may as well be full sisters...hehehe One child is blood and one isn't to Stu but he treats them both the same....People have always seemed shocked that the girls are only half sisters when we tell them. We don't hide it and the girls don't think anything about it. I know Stu and I certainly don't.....

To me family isn't about the blood relations....It is about the people who are there for you through the best and the worst of the times.....


7 comments :

  1. As the years have gone by my family has become more and more reduced and those that are left I rarely see. I think you are right about family not having to be blood though. I did think that your girls were full sisters, they are so alike. x

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  2. You are so right. Fortunately I am close to many of my family members, though some of those are not blood-related but mean the world to me, then there are friends. I didn't realise your girls were half sisters, they do look so alike! And as you say, what difference anyway x

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  3. Family is indeed a funny thing. I agree with you that those you call family don't have to be blood related. All my siblings apart from my twin are half-siblings. It makes no difference to me though - they are my brothers and sisters whether we have a full blood connection or not. Funnily enough I look more like my older sister than I do my twin. Being a dad is so much more about the biological connection anyway and sounds like your girls have a great one in Stu. My half-siblings on my mum's side considered my dad to be their dad too x

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  4. I have a half sister too and we are closest out of anyone else in my family ❤️ I have never thought of her as a 'half sister' and sometimes it is almost surprising to realize that she is!

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  5. Hi Kim, family is a funny thing. I do wish I was closer to my sister and her family (geographically) but when we do get together it's like we haven't been apart. I know that our extended family does pull together when need be, and to me that's what counts. I do miss being near them though.

    xx

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  6. I absolutely agree that family are the people who stick by you through and thin. I struggle to form friendships and I'm very socially awkward at times meaning there are few people who I do feel comfortable with so I know exactly how you feel there! #pocolo

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  7. This is so true. We've got a mixture of people who've been with us through thick and thin. They are family even though we're not related. I feel so privileged to have them all in our lives. Lovely to meet yours - they sound great :)

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